It’s been a long time that I have written something over here…. I was busy with my project works and life. After a long gap, I got to speak with you once again. I thank my God for this beautiful chance given You must be wondering about the title I had given to a blog post that is been written after a long gap… Yes, you are right, my post is titled as ‘Disturbed emotions’, coz I am sharing the thoughts that disturbed me recently. There are many of them.
I will start with the most recent one. It’s gender equality. I know guys will fret at this word by raising their eyebrows, and girls may smile a bit. I know it’s an age old issue. What made me discuss about it, is the attitude of many men towards the women. I will never ever say attitude of the male race towards the female race, as it will be putting many of my good friends down. I write this to address only those people with this attitude.
I have been reading about the statements made by Mukesh Singh, one of the rapist in the Nirbhaya rape case. Those words ticked my inner soul like many others. A rapist and a murderer was speaking about the moral of the woman he RAPED, WOUNDED AND MURDERED (well, he is uneducated thing, so there won’t be any surprises about his remarks.) It made me think about the attitude that many of the men has towards women. I am addressing these words only to those men.
“MEN, YOU CAN’T DEGRADE THE VALUE OF THE WOMEN, WHEN IT IS A WOMAN, WHO UNDERWENT THE WHOLE PAIN OF LABOUR TO GIVE YOU A LIFE INTO THIS WORLD. WHEN IT IS WOMAN’S CRY AND THE KILLING PAIN THAT GAVE YOU THE BREATH, YOU CAN’T UNDERESTIMATE THE VALUE OF A WOMAN, HER LIFE AND HER DREAMS. IF THAT WOMAN WHO GAVE YOU BIRTH, DESTROYED YOU IN THE WOMB ITSELF, MAYBE WE MAY NOT HAVE TO BEAR YOU DEROGATORY REMARKS ABOUT US. BUT, A LOVING MOTHER , BORE YOU FOR NINE MONTHS, GAVE YOU BIRTH, DESPITE THE WORST PAIN IN THE WORLD, NURTURED YOU AND CARED YOU. SO, HOW DARE YOU REMARK ABOUT THE FREEDOM, CULTURE, DREAMS AND VALUES OF US WOMEN? WHEN YOU ARE REMARKING ABOUT OUR MORALS IN A NEGATIVE WAY, REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE GIVING AWAY YOUR MORALS. WHEN YOU ONLY SEE US AS SLAVES AND SERVANTS OR AS PIECE OF MEAT, DON’T EVER EXPECT US TO RESPECT YOU OR LOVE YOU THE WAY YOU DESERVE. NOW THESE MEN MAY ASK THE QUESTION, HOW CAN SERVING YOUR FAMILY MAKE YOU A SLAVE?? IT WILL NEVER MAKE US A SLAVE WHEN WE DO IT FROM THE BOTTOM OF OUR HEART, WHICH IS WHAT EVERYONE OF US DO ALL THE TIME.”
So, it was not the evil mind of you and your friends, which decided to trap, injure and kill a woman cruelly, that was responsible. It was not you cruel hearts that decided to touch a woman without her permission, which was FAR MORE responsible?
Again these words are not applicable to the entire male race, coz then I have to condemn the loving men in my life who is willing to even give up their life for us, who loves us and respect us for who we are. Many of them are sweating in the hot sun, staying hungry and protecting their family by giving their life and blood. Many husbands out there, spend months away from their family, which they cherish to the core of their soul. Many fathers out there, cuddle their daughters and protect them from the evil world. Many men out there, support their life partner for her dreams, cherish her soul, protect her with his life and love her to the bottom of his heart. These men don’t have the so-called male-ish ego which says that, only if you rule your woman, you will be called a man. Instead, these men earn RESPECT and LOVE from their women and their family as the “REAL MAN” of the family. I include, my father, many of my uncles, many of my brothers and my friends in this category. I give a big salute and respect to all the real men out there, Know that you are valued, respected, loved and cherished by the women like us :) adios!